Since I was a teen I was into things which I would now say is not vanilla, then it was freaky naughty sex, I was rough, I was controlling and would always leave my strong marks on partners.
I loved pushing myself and them with outdoors fun and sexual control of orgasms, much later in life I realised it was because I was an exhibitionist to some degree and of course a lovely female dominant.
There is something wonderful that drew me to the kink scene its a strong scene of trust, this comes in many forms from the friendships made to the power exchange with submissives and the relationships with my buyers. Its connections I feel I can not make in the vanilla setting of the world so I don’t hugely join in to that side any more, I live and breathe kink….